Atmospheric black metal.
http://www.metalstorm.net/bands/band...dname=agalloch
That's what I should have called the list--top 10 atmospheric black metal.
Yeah, it's tame, and probably not enough for what you need. But Cash was pretty tame too. Kind of soulful.
You are like my bf Greg, if I can presume shit. He's my high school bro and best man at my wedding, he was into high decibel and high octane, catholic dude who ended up becoming a high-achieving workaholic walking a kind of razors edge waiting to move to Wyoming and 7000 acres. Listen to Gallowbraid, you'll like that one. But then, if you are in that certain scorched-earth, burn it down mood, maybe check out .. idk man. I don't have a good thrash-type recommendation, but north can chime in. I'm into this atmospheric stuff. Check out Gallowbraid.