If you merely want to be rid of the problem then you've got all the advice you need in this thread. Tough love. Ultimatum. All of that. But I think it's easy for us to be a little callous towards Mr. anonymous burnout when we haven't heard a single redeeming quality about this guy. I'm sure he has a couple or you wouldn't have invited him to your home in the first place.
This isn't a 19 year old who is going to take it as a wake up call and get their life together - he clearly has an established pattern. So he's just going to find another place to freeload. Which is fine - if you merely want this guy to be somebody else's problem...
But if he is really your friend and you really want to help him then I'd try to help him understand how his behavior is self destructive and help him formulate a plan for how he can help himself. Help him understand some of the observations you've made since he's been with you and let him know you're telling him not to be judgmental but to try and help him. If you're prepared to let him stay until the end of the year than I think that sets up a conversation where you tell him he's free to stay as long as he's making some progress towards being self sufficient - but that includes a real assessment of his financial situation and employment. If he's not willing to commit to that then you can't just keep propping him up.
I was going to say much of the same, North, but didn't want to speak for you.
Also - you posted that at 4:20 AM. Coincidence?
I'm surprised you and Missy haven't had a Come to Jesus with him by now. It seems like there would have been multiple perfect opportunities where you guys were sitting around getting a buzz on; allowing the proper moment to open up about his complete lack of responsibility.
WTE your post started out like you were going to suggest a threesome. You pig.
Buff is out there styling. Northman is a good person...he told me I was a Viking...ergo he must be a stylegod.
Hey North, good luck.
my friend is a bit of an odd cat. One of his favorite things to do is simply to troll people including his friends on the web. He will just post some off the wall thing that gets everyone in a tizzy. The only thing i still havent figured out about him though is although he is very liberal he ended up voting for Trump. And im not sure if he just did it to troll people again or if he thought enough of Trump to actually put a vote for him. Just some of the things he does is hard to get a read on because as much as he likes to smoke weed and be anti-establishment i cant see any reason for him to vote the way he did. Maybe he just hates women. lmao
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