Originally Posted by
MasterShake
Just saw this thread! Had a very similar experience with one of my wife's friends. Lived with us just over a year rent free until she got back on her feet which it seemed she never had any intention of ever doing. Put a strain on our home as well as affected my wife and I. Decided a real friend wouldn't do that and essentially gave her a month to get out which is 2 more weeks than I wanted to do. The bottom line for me was if I was in that situation I would feel shittier every day I wasn't improving myself or contributing to the household. The fact that she exhibited neither trait and ran up our water bill with 30 minute showers told me who she really was, not who I wanted her to be. If you aren't helping yourself to help out those who offered you their home that is not a partnership that is a dependency. I hate to say it but sometimes people need to realize they don't have a crutch until they help themselves. Me being a martyr while biting my tongue and feeling like I had to walk around eggshells in my own home was stressful and helped noone in that situation. Ultimately everyone is out for their best interests, and if yours don't align with someone else it's time to move on.
Just my 2 cents.